Long weekend

hello my dear, how are you?

sorry about the slow updates, as I’ve been resting and trying to recover from my cold for the last few days, I’ve basically been at home / on bed. Thankfully I’m finally feeling slightly better yesterday (Saturday) and was able to spend some time with Chung.

In fact, he came over to downstairs of my home on Friday as well for a brief meet up / chat in his car for an hour. He came over because we were supposed to hangout the whole day that day and go to the cinema, but I decided that I wasn’t well enough yet to go out in the end. I could feel that he was quite disappointed and upset, so I suggested that we can meet briefly downstairs at my home if he wants to.

I suggested that because I actually felt the need for us to have a conversation about how we can get along better with each other moving forward. I feel that so far, while we do share mutual attraction for each other, I’ve also noticed that at the same time there also are areas where we are very different from each other, which is causing us to feel uncomfortable/unsatisfied in the relationship. I feel that if we really want to develop further and eventually be together, there’re area that we need to understand each other better and hopefully find middle ground between both sides’ expectations. For example, he’s a very affectionate and physically expressive person, so to him, he really needs physical interaction and touches to feel tangible in a romantic relationship, and that’s why he kept asking to meet me. But for me, I am a “boundary” and super introverted person who needs space and alone time a lot more than him, and I get overwhelmed easily and need time to wind down.

Turns out he noticed the same too (our differences) and agreed that we can have more of these conversations in the near future. So we also spent a bit of time when we met yesterday at his home to have these conversations. Even though I know these communications are not easy and these things take time, I feel relieved and more at peace after having these quality conversations, at least I feel that we both share the same value of trying to build a good foundation for our relationship.

And today, after church, we had lunch with my care group (he knows most of them because we are in the same circle). After that, he accompanied me to Central for my chinese doctor appointment, and then to Causeway Bay for my eye brow trimming appointment. I genuinely appreciate him because the weather was so bad today and he had to wait for me a lot on the street/mall while I did those things, but he still willingly wanted to accompany me because he wants to spend more time with me.

I hope you had a good long weekend break too, and stayed dry today 😊 miss you and good night :)